A Resolve for Personal Integrity


King David resolved,

“I will behave wisely in a perfect way.
Oh, when will You come to me?
I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.
I will set nothing wicked before my eyes;
I hate the work of those who fall away;
It shall not cling to me.
A perverse heart shall depart from me;
I will not know wickedness.” Psalm 101:2-4 NKJV

When David went astray from this resolve (the adultery episode of 2 Samuel ch. 11), –although he was forgiven (Psalm 51)–there were devastating consequences.

Charles Stanley observes, “How many wrong relationships begin with just a harmless glance? How many thefts start with an envious gaze? How many addictive habits take hold from prolonged exposure to the wrong thing? If we wish to avoid doing evil, we must stay far away from any situation, attitude, or habit that could cause us to stumble.”

The Abide Study Bible recommends, “Pray. Ask God to evaluate you today: your eyes, your heart, your words, and your thoughts. Confess any wicked ways and thank Him for His forgiveness. Ask the Lord to help you live wisely and walk in His perfect way.”

A mentee recently applied this principle by implementing this filter on his computer: https://cleanbrowsing.org/
“CleanBrowsing is a content filtering platform. We block access to online porn and malicious sites.”  The $59.00 a year subscription for families covers up to 25 devices.

“Let us conduct ourselves properly and honorably as in the [light of] day, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual promiscuity and irresponsibility, not in quarreling and jealousy.  But clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for [nor even think about gratifying] the flesh in regard to its improper desires.” Romans 13:13,14 Amplified Bible

Escaping a Snare of the Enemy

Erwin Lutzer of Moody Memorial Church preached on “Pornography: The Soul Defiled.”  This message, based on Matthew 5:27-30, was part five in a series entitled “Seven Snares of the Enemy.”

Here are selected highlights from this sermon:

Pornography is everywhere and there are millions enslaved to the desires of sensuality that it enflames.

Jesus challenges us to be different. Can we pursue purity in our marriages? Can we harbor pure hearts, free from lustful thoughts and fantasies? Can we purify our associations, cutting off contact with practices, jobs, and objects which spark the fires of evil within us?

To be free from sexual sin is a painful and thorough process, but when we are eventually living in freedom, thanks to God’s Word [God’s Spirit] and God’s people, it will be worth it!

See the message transcript or download the audio recording here: https://www.moodymedia.org/sermons/seven-snares-enemy/pornography-soul-defiled/

Overcoming Temptation

“…And do not lead us into temptation, But deliver us from the evil one. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.” (Matt. 6:13).

“…Nor let us commit sexual immorality, as some of them did, and in one day twenty-three thousand fell…Now all these things happened to them as examples, and they were written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the ages have come. Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it” (1 Cor. 10:8,11-13).

“How to Overcome Temptation” is a helpful 10 minute teaching by Steve Goss of Freedom in Christ Ministries (U.K.)

This video was just added to our Videos page:

As Dr. Bill and Anabel Gillham would teach (www.Lifetime.org), temptation needs to be resisted in “the threshold of the mind, not in the mind…”

Biblical Truths to Help You Break Free from Sexual Addiction

(Courtesy of Hope for the Heart)

Beginning with Grace

“I always thank my God for you because of his grace given you in Christ Jesus” (1 Corinthians 1:4).

Grace – let’s begin there. There’s grace for you. You’re not alone. Help is available.

The apostle Paul wrote those words to a church that had many issues, some of which were sexual sin. As he began his letter, he did not start it with a note of guilt, shame, disappointment, or disgust. He began with gratitude and God’s grace.

That’s where God begins with you – not with shame but with grace. The Bible says, “he gives grace generously” (James 4:6 NLT).

Change is possible

Maybe you’ve tried to stop but you can’t. Perhaps you had some short-term success, but it happened again. You feel caught in a cycle of guilt and shame and repeating behaviors you don’t want to do. You might feel like the apostle Paul, who said, “I want to do what is right, but I can’t. I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway” (Romans 7:18–19 NLT).

If that’s you, there’s grace for you. Friend, change is possible. But the answer is not found in trying harder, beating yourself up, or hiding it and promising to change. It’s found in Jesus Christ. Only He can remove our shame and empower us by His grace to change.

“Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord.”
(Romans 7:24–25 NLT)

14 Biblical Truths to Help You Break Free from Sexual Addiction

God loves you and has a heart of grace and compassion for you.
“The LORD is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and rich in love. The LORD is good to all; he has compassion on all he has made.”
(Psalm 145:8–9)

God wants you to regularly remind yourself of who He is.
“O Lord, you are so good, so ready to forgive, so full of unfailing love for all who ask for your help.”
(Psalm 86:5 NLT)

God wants you to see yourself through His eyes.
“You are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you.”
(Isaiah 43:4 ESV)

God wants you to stay away from all sexual sin.
“God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor.”
(1 Thessalonians 4:3–4 NLT)

God wants you to run and flee from sexual sin.
“Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.”
(1 Corinthians 6:18 NLT)

God placed our sin and guilt on Christ so we could be forgiven.
“But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to our own way; and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all.”
(Isaiah 53:5–6)

God extends complete and total forgiveness to you.
“Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, ‘I will confess my rebellion to the LORD.’  And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone.”
(Psalm 32:5 NLT)

God wants you in His presence—to cleanse you of the guilt and shame you feel.
“Let us go right into the presence of God with sincere hearts fully trusting him. For our guilty consciences have been sprinkled with Christ’s blood to make us clean, and our bodies have been washed with pure water.”
(Hebrews 10:22 NLT)

God wants you to replace the lies you’ve been led to believe with His truth.
“Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.”
(Psalm 25:5)

God wants you to find your identity in Him—as His beloved child.
“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!”
(1 John 3:1)

God wants you to fight sin—avoiding and getting rid of things that tempt you.
“So if your eye – even your good eye – causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away … And if your hand – even your stronger hand – causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away.”
(Matthew 5:29–30 NLT)

God wants you to seek accountability.
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
(Proverbs 27:17)

God can use counselors to help you find victory over sexual addiction.
“For by wise guidance you can wage your war, and in abundance of counselors there is victory.”
(Proverbs 24:6 ESV)

God wants you to help others who struggle with sexual addiction.
“Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
(Galatians 6:1–2)




The Free Man Challenge

Today pornography and sex addiction are on the rise and so is the violence linked to them. The average age of initial exposure to porn is only 11 – and 93 percent of boys are exposed to pornography before they’re 18…

On April 28, 2022 Promise Keepers will gather men from around the nation for a powerful online event addressing sexual integrity—followed by a 30-day challenge with prayer, practical resources, stories from real guys, and accountability. Promise Keepers has partnered several organizations and ministries to create this compelling, transformative event, including Covenant Eyes, Pure Desire, Prodigals International, Messenger International, Axis, Dr. Steve Arterburn and New Life Live, and Be Broken Ministries.

Pornography is the scourge of our age—feeding abnormal behaviors and attitudes in relationships, dehumanizing women and girls and creating unnecessary guilt and shame. If for no other reason, please plan on participating so you know how to understand and help someone else.

Freedom awaits!

Register today for early access information.

Kick-Off: April 28, 2022
5pm Pacific | 6pm Mountain | 7pm Central | 8pm Eastern

The Free Man Challenge

Integrity Declaration

“I have made a covenant with my eyes;
Why then should I look upon a young woman? [who is not my wife]?” (Job 31:1).

“Then Samuel said to the people, ‘Come, let us go to Gilgal and renew the kingdom there.’  So all the people went to Gilgal, and there they [crowned the king] before the Lord… They made sacrifices of peace offerings before the Lord, and … all the men of Israel rejoiced greatly” (1 Sam. 11:14,15).

In the spirit of Job 31:1 (a personal commitment) and 1 Samuel ‭11:14‬, (a renewal of commitment), I write this declaration:

I have learned from the positive example of Joseph (Genesis ch. 39).

I have learned from the painful experience of king David (2 Samuel ch. 11).

I have learned from the supreme example of my Lord Jesus Christ in His temptation in the wilderness, in His dealing with the woman caught in adultery, and in His prayer time in Gethsemane.

I heed the admonition to God’s people in Romans 13: 11–14: “And do this, knowing the time, that now it is high time to awake out of sleep; for now our salvation is nearer than when we first believed. The night is far spent, the day is at hand. Therefore let us cast off the works of darkness, and let us put on the armor of light. Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

I accept the the personal admonition of 2 Timothy 2:19-22: “Nevertheless the solid foundation of God stands, having this seal: ‘The Lord knows those who are His,’ and, ‘Let everyone who names the name of Christ depart from iniquity.’ But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and silver, but also of wood and clay, some for honor and some for dishonor. Therefore if anyone cleanses himself from the latter, he will be a vessel for honor, sanctified and useful for the Master, prepared for every good work. Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”

As an expression of my love to God and others, through the enablement of the Holy Spirit, I hereby give to God my private entertainment time each day, to avoid electronic visual amusement that would grieve Him, and I choose morally acceptable alternatives for His glory and my ultimate good.


Freedom from Sin’s Authority

John 8:1-12 is the story of the woman who was caught in adultery and brought publicly to Jesus. This was an intentional scenario by the self-righteous religious leaders to try to trap Jesus into requiring capital punishment [Deut. 22:22] or —if not—be considered permissive toward immorality. After Christ’s famous answer ”He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first,” the accusers left one by one.
“[Then] He said to her, ‘Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?”
She said, “No one, Lord.”
And Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more” (John 8:7,10,11).

Later in this chapter, “Jesus proclaimed: ‘If you continue in My word, then you are truly disciples of Mine; and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free” (John 8:31, 32).

Dr. Charles Stanley explains the scope of the believer’s freedom from sin’s dominion.

“Consider these verses the believer’s emancipation proclamation. In verses 34–36, Jesus explains: “Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is the slave of sin. The slave does not remain in the house forever; the son does remain forever. So if the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed.” How are we liberated to live in Christ?

1. Through Jesus’ death on the Cross and resurrection, we are freed from the penalty of sin. Like the woman caught in adultery, we are no longer condemned for what we’ve done. Christ pays our sin-debt in full so that we can be reconciled to the Father (Rom. 5:10; 6:23; Col. 1:19–22).

2. We are released from the power of sin. Our sin nature no longer dominates us—leading us from one unsatisfying and destructive transgression to another. Rather, we are free to seek and know God through the power and presence of His Holy Spirit (Rom. 8:2–17). Jesus told the woman, “Go. From now on sin no more” (John 8:11), not as a terrible requirement for earning His forgiveness, but as a declaration of what is possible when we follow Him (1 Cor. 6:11–20).

3. We are liberated from the purpose of sin. James 1:15 tells us, “When sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.” The goal of our iniquity is usually to exalt ourselves or meet our own needs, but the outcome is always ruination. Perhaps this woman was seeking love, acceptance, or security, yet she was obviously going about getting it in the wrong way—destroying herself and her dignity. However, Christ sets us free to become everything God created us to be to His honor and glory (John 10:10; Eph. 2:10).

4. We are unshackled from the personality of sin. To the scribes and the Pharisees, this woman would always be known by the name “sinner,” and perhaps that is how she thought of herself as well. However, when Jesus comes into our lives, we are no longer known for our iniquities. Rather, we are recognized as belonging to the One who has covered our iniquities with His blood. Our transgressions are no longer our identity because Christ makes us into a new creation (Rom. 8:1; 2 Cor. 5:17).

What can you do to begin living in the freedom Jesus purchased for you on the Cross? There is no formula for discovering the richness of His truth. But by obeying and trusting in Him, you’ll be on the road to the liberated life He designed for you.” – Life Principles Bible notes.

May we have the confidence and wisdom to walk in freedom one day at a time.

Somebody’s Daughter

Somebody’s Daughter “is a six-time award winning DVD/CD set is a unique and groundbreaking resource for breaking free from pornography. The grace-filled DVD contains four compelling music videos, forty minutes of life-giving interviews, and eight vignettes. The companion 56 minute CD has nine original songs as well as nine spoken word pieces with scripture, poetry, personal testimonies, and more. A printed discussion guide is also available.”

Order this documentary DVD and hear the music from the bonus CD at http://www.musicforthesoul.org here.

Live Free

Carl Thomas, former COO of XXXchurch.com, has assembled a team to help men and women live in freedom from porn.

“Whether you struggle with pornography and sexual sin, or you are married to someone who does, community must be an essential part of your journey toward freedom. True change – true transformation, true healing – begins to happen when people commit to walking this path (called life) together.”

At https://livefreecommunity.org/ they offer a “10 DAY FREEDOM FROM PORN ACTION PLAN.”

In our Proverbs 5 plan, a small group is important. Live Free offers their own online small groups system which could meet this requirement.

They also have a subscription-based app that has additional resources and features.